February 2012
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I suppose...
… that I’m in need of a little reassurance right now — in need of a little tender love and care. Uncertainty, doubt, and fear are awful things to deal with, even worse when I already have to deal with clinical anxiety on a regular basis, too.
I was reading this blog, and it hit me, I realized that “maybe” is one of my least favorite words. And by definition,...
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When You're Truly Supportive of Someone Else...
You take yourself out of the picture, figuratively of course, or at least step towards the background anyways. You stop thinking about personal gain and personal reason, and begin to hope that all that this person aspires to be becomes true. You hope that this person finds happiness and love. And you hope this person learns quickly from their mistakes and grows even stronger and wiser from them.
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So.. my brother-in-law ..
… and I got really blazed while hanging out with each other the other night. And we got down to talking about how awesome it would be if we bought a meat grinder so we can make our own ground meats and make burgers and sliders, and other stuff. He’ll make the pickles, and I’ll make freshly baked breads. And we just were hella into the idea.
We laughed a lot over the silliest...
the feeling of being left out:
ainakurachel:
not wanted
dont fit in
not trusted
feel like crap
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But… you must remember, you’re never truly alone. And there’s always other things out there. These feelings are just negative-core beliefs of one’s self, and you have to remind yourself that they’re not true.
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Update on therapy -- Abuse, Neglect, and...
Well… yesterday’s session was particularly a tough one — I didn’t want to talk about a lot of the crap I’ve been through, but not my therapist insisted; we relentlessly dove in. We dove into a lot of the abuse, neglect, exploitation, traumatic events, and grief I’ve been through again. I wasn’t allowed to talk veguely either, I had to give great detail.
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Jay Random Fact-fession #71?
I have this tiny, tiny idea in the back of my head that today is the day I’m going to die. And… I have to remind myself whenever the thought arises that “no, I’m going to live today” and “no, I will wake up in the morning.” I have this small fear that I’m going to just suddenly die without any warning, maybe even in my sleep, for whatever reason,...
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We're All Deserving. (list of virtues)
I am deserving of:
love
respect
family
friends
kindness
understanding
stability
security
support
affection
intimacy
fun
generosity
loyalty
dignity
honesty
wisdom
education
humility
expression
compromise
flexibility
forgiveness
curiosity
healthy communication
responsibility
gentleness
caring
compassion
independence
integrity
creativity
...
I wish I could just disappear.
tippytoeslovesyou:
It’s one of those days.
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Cut My Wrists
I used to be a cutter. I would do it with any sharp object I could get my hands on: pens, pencils, sticks, knives, needles, thumbtacks… etc. etc.
I started cutting when I was really young, I didn’t even have to hide the cuts and scratches because no one ever noticed them anyways because my eczema was so bad at the time. I was a very depressed child, no one knew though, I made it seem...
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Valentine's Day
Back in middle school, 7th grade to be more specific, I remember sitting at lunch the day before valentine’s day listening to all the sad people who didn’t expect to receive valentine cards or special little gifts, or have a special someone to spend it with. It made me wonder why this particular holiday made some people so sad, I think it was because it just reminded everyone that they...
agreatcollision:
There are days when I can write 2000 words in no time, and good words too. Then there are days when typing a couple of rather feeble sentences feels like trying to drag a huge stone over marshy grounds.
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"Like," "Um," and "Ah" are Credibility Killers
Most of the time I feel that I am reasonably articulate, but on occasion my sentences get sprinkled with the flavorless additives “um” “uh” and “er”. I know it is a habit from childhood that I just can’t seem to shake. Could you please help me?
These “credibility killers” — fluency disruptions — communicate doubt, especially at the end of a phrase. When he was talking, I...
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How to Introduce Yourself (By Lisa B. Marshall)
How to Introduce Yourself
Next week, my twin girls will be entering kindergarten. Last week they each received a hand-written letter from the principal of the school. She introduced herself to the girls by listing her favorite things to eat and by sharing her summertime activities. My husband and I also received a letter of introduction. However, in our letter, the principal described her...
All Love, NoH8: Prop 8 declared unconstitutional:... →
ruthoutspoken:
Here’s the breakdown of what you need to know:
Today’s ruling: The 9th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled in a 2-1 vote that Prop 8 is not constitutional. This affirms Judge Vaughn Walker’s earlier ruling that Prop. 8 violated the U.S. Constitution by denying rights to a certain…
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Flattery, Boundaries, and Respect
I must admit compliments here and there are rather nice, and certain names of endearment from the right people could be rather nice, too. It’s really a nice ego-boost from time to time. Sure, it’s harmless flirting, what harm can come from it? Well… I believe a lot of people quite often go too far with “harmless” flirting, especially nowadays, and therefore quite...
Words that I live by now and again.
ducethomas:
“As long as you can make others happy, that should be satisfaction enough. Please don’t expect anything for your kindness. We must learn to give without the expectation of receiving … “
January 2012
67 posts
nerdy-oso asked: Just so you know, i care about you love. Stay positive and always know you can come talk to me about anything. I enjoy hearing from you and if there is ever a problem, you know you can talk my ear off about it if you need to *hugs tightly*
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Negative Core Beliefs - and how they control the...
Your belief system gives you a framework that helps you interpret and understand the experiences you face in life. A belief is something you accept as true, without question. That means you can expect that every day it will seem just as true as it was the day before. Your beliefs are deeply embedded in you, so you and particularly your team of protective inner selves, live your life around them,...
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Jay Random Fact-fession #70?
When I was still in middle school, I remember having those sex-ed lectures from teachers about how our bodies were going to change from children into adolescent teenagers. And honestly, I actually looked forward to some of it. I was tired of being the short kid. I was tired of having a high-pitched voice. I was looking forward to growing muscles, and eventually facial hair.
As of private parts,...
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How to Make Someone Happy
Are you feeling good and want to make someone else feel good too? Do you have a friend who is feeling sad? Here are a few ways to make someone!
Smile at them. Learn how to have a real smile, and care about people. Learn how to feel compassion when regarding someone.
Tell them a funny joke. Inside jokes work really well, especially if it is something only between the two of you. Learn how to...
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BEING HAPPY FOR SOMEONE ELSE (by corrine)
An outstanding example of complete selflessness is Retired Justice Sandra Day O’Connor, a woman who not has had a brilliant career but has a huge heart and is an example of great love to us all.
Her husband, who lives at a Phoenix facility for people with Alzheimer’s, has found a new romance. He and the woman, referred to only as “Kay,” another patient, are “teenagers in love.”
“Mom was...
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So first 2 weeks of school complete.
So far, it’s not so bad. I got all the classes I needed. And it’s not too much of a heavy load academically. I have a lunch break when I could actually see some friends. And I get out at a reasonable time everyday, besides Tuesdays. Plus, I have an extra day off in the week. Not needed, but sweet to have.
I got all the books I needed, though I’m a lil more broke than I would...
bmodest asked: I dont know why it wont let me reply to your last post but I want you to now that I do understand and I am here for you. I told you this past weekend, I'm here to listen, and do just that, listen. I won't judge, I won't preach to you, I won't try to fix you. I'll just listen and understand. I'm here for you, while maybe not in the physical sense, just know that I am...
“Time can heal a broken heart, but time can also break a waiting heart.”
– (via lovelyserendipitii)
